Originally Posted by
rustynail
No problem Chris. You are perfectly entitled to your opinion and have every right to follow your convictions. Sometimes, in so doing we only make the situation worse. As a doorman, I have been verbally abused and threatened by the best of them, its all part of the job. How good you are at that job is determined not only by your ability to belt the guy into submission, but also the ability to keep your head when those about you are losing theirs.
You say you wont accept being abused by a stranger in the street. Well that is unfortunate. The stranger could well have a mental condition, may suffer from tourettes syndrome, etc, etc. I can remember an incident outside a hotel I worked at where a young bloke gave a middle aged gentleman a mouth full of expletives. The said gent then took it upon himself to teach the kid some manners. His chosen educational tool was his fist, by way of an excellent right cross, fracturing the young blokes jaw. Upon hitting the deck the youngen was then lined up for a slippering. This is when I stepped in and suggested enough was enough. The gent, like yourself, thought otherwise and continued to try and lay the boot in, unsuccessfully, as I was now standing between him and the chap on the ground. This only added to his frustration and seeing he had had such good results with his first right cross, he decided he might try his luck once more, on me. Well, it wasn't as effective as his first and he was soon resting peacefully on the ground next to his "mate." When the young bloke came to his senses, he was most concerned when he saw his sleeping partner. I assured him he wasn't responsible and asked why the gob full in the first place?
"I'm sorry,I have Tourettes." Was the reply. A trip to hospital revealed a broken jaw. As for his assailant, I have no idea. He just slithered off into the crowd.
Now where does that leave you and your no go attitude?
If we all just took the time to understand were the other person is coming from , before hauling of and seeking or delivering whatever justice we, in the heat of the moment, think is appropriate, the better this place would be. you got a gob full. So what? And as for standing up for yourself, I don't think so. You are expecting others to do that for you. By what you have said took place during the confrontation, there is no mention of any effort to reason with the bloke. He probably took exception to your "No way" response to his initial request, unjustified as that may be. But hey, "No thank you" would have been far less offensive and probably would have left a much better impression. But maybe you didn't mind giving him a bit of a gee up with your haughty response? Well, old son, if that's the case, I guess you got what you wanted.
Again I ask, do you need a house or not?
