Dave
Remember him well.
Regards
Paul
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Dave
Remember him well.
Regards
Paul
A small heads up for those of you who have been following this thread:
Watch the marketplace auctions this evening :wink: .
Regards
Paul
He may be gone but I am sure his spirit will remain with you mate. Thoughts are with you and the family
Sorry to read your news Dave. I don't know what I could say to ease your pain but like I said on Saturday night, give and receive lots of hugs.
See you soon,
Craig
Our condolences and prayers to you and your family and to your brothers wife and family. As everyone has said, cherish the memories, take all the time you need and thank you for sharing the best qualities of human nature.
My condolences to all.
Dave,
condolences mate
Dennis
Gone, but always remembered.
Condolences to the family. In our thoughts.
Dave My sincere condolences at your loss of a loved one.
The passing of a family member is not easy to bear ,the grief can be long term but the love you hold for them in your heart does not diminish with time, nor does the cherished memories of the life & the good times you had together.
Dave, I am sorry to hear this sad news. My condolences to you and your family.
My condolence for the passing of your brother.
Dave, I am sorry to hear the sad news of the passing of your brother. My condolences to you and your family.
Kryn
As you know Dave I rarely venture far from either the turning sections of the forum or the toymaking section, I have only just come across this thread so please accept my condolence on your loss. Thinking of you and your family at this sad time. Take care and look forward to your return once things have settled a bit.
Always remember the good times you had it helps get you all through this time
Dave loosing someone so close hurts like hell to you and your family our condolences.
Ray & Sue
Very sorry to hear the news Dave, my best to you and yours. Great that you're helping the children through this.
Funeral notice.
Timothy's funeral service will be Thursday 18th at 10am
A. O'hare funeral directors chapel 15 Norton st, Leichhardt (pronounced lye card), NSW 2040
If any of you decide to come please make yourself known to me and forgive me for any mental lapse if I forget your name or where we last met (if indeed we have met in person )
I will likely be wearing my hat. At least one of my kids will likely be hanging off me.
Dave TTC
Turning Wood Into Art
Dave,
I have only just found this thread - been missing from the forums while buried in my workshop trying to complete a table for my son and daughter-in-law because they don't have one.
I am so sorry to hear about your brother, please accept my condolences. I know from our chats over a couple of Brisbane TWWW shows how much you cared for him and how much you have been doing. I know it never seems enough but be assured that your care and help to your brother are a very impressive show of your love and you have earned my and others respect for being such a great brother and human being.
I hope that now that your brother has found peace you and your family can find peace too and remember him the way he would want to be remembered.
BTW I always wondered what was under that hat!
Best regards
David
I am delighted to be able to draw your attention to another auction to raise funds for Dave.
Ironwood has generously donated an exquisite pen to be auctioned. Full details in this thread in the Market Place
https://www.woodworkforums.com/showth...78#post1873878
I hope you will join me in thanking Ironwood.
Regards
Paul
Dave
I'm very sorry to hear about the loss of your bro
Unfortunately I'm elsewhere on Thursday doing something I really cannot get out of
but notwithstanding that my thoughts are with you, your family and Tim's family.
My condolences
It's been a whirl wind the past few weeks and particularly the past few days. All the way my woodworking family has been there. I thankyou but words just do not seem enough. Shortly I will be putting together some words for the funeral, not sure how if I will be able to concentrate but it needs to be done and time is running out.
You, my friends, have rallied behind me in a way I never expected and have never experienced.
As for the finacial aid it all started because I was looking for accomodation so as not to be a finacial burden on my brothers wife. Things worked out and my brothers wife was able to put me up here and my wife and children are staying in Gosford. I never imagined in my wildest dreams that you would all come to my aid such as you have. Now I feel guilty as it was to help my siter in law I was trying to achieve. That said I have had out of pocket expenses over the last few weeks directly related to helping and visiting my brother in excess of a months wages. I am happy to accept any donations that have been given or may yet be raised but I do not want to accept such on a false pretense. With that said if anyone feels they have helped me but might not have given the current circumstances I am happy to return any money given. Simply PM me your details and the amount and I can do a reverse (no one will ever need to know you asked for it back). If you are happy still to support such as you have I can use this money to offset travel expenses, parking fees, lost wages and other sundry expenses associated with being away from home. I dont want anyone to think I have used this situation to take advantage of anyone else or profit myself.
My friendship with all my mates here is more important than any help that may come.
I am not particularly an emotional emotional guy on the outside but several times you have made my eyes well up as I have been overcome with your generousity, support and help
Thank you
David Walters
ps. if my inbox is full you can email thru a forum link
Hi Dave
Thank you for honest post. Just speaking for myself, I don't begrudge you any of the money raised as I know you have supported Timothy's children as well as your own extensive family and all this on a shoestring budget. Travelling interstate to do much of this is hardly inexpensive.
Just occasionally in life we come across somebody who gives freely of his time to others and personally it brings me some satisfaction to be able to say I have in some small part returned that favour.
I hope Timothy was able to understand some of this thread that you read to him in his last hours. I would like to think he understood the regard in which you are held by Forum members and the warmth that was extended to him by your standing in the community.
We are all going to die: However it seems unjust when people die before a reasonable period of time has passed. Perhaps the money raised will go towards the healing process and the continuation of life for the family.
Regards
Paul
Hi Dave,Quote:
Originally Posted by DaveTTC
Speaking as the "snowflake" who started the "avalanche of support" let me tell you that I do not feel that there are any "false pretenses" here.
You have missed out on work at your now job, with no entitlements to cash in on. Petrol is not cheap ans you have had a lot of travel to pay for with no money coming in to offset it. You are away from home and expenses are higher.
Personally I am glad that your SIL could put you up and now you can use any donated money to help even more than just paying for accommodation. I think I speak for everyone who sent you money when I say that.
Concentrate on your family now, Dave. That is what is important. You have proven yourself to be a forum member worthy of our respect form the way you conduct yourself. I cannot see anyone having a problem with how you choose to spend the money we have contributed. I am sure you will spend it wisely.
Cheers
Doug
Dave
We've never met, but I would like to extend my condolences to you and your family.
Colin
Hi Dave,
Like a lot of the other blokes and blokesse's on here I dont know you from Adam. What comes across from this thread is a picture of a man who is caring, and just a generally decent human being. No one here would begrudge anything that has been given to you because I and all the others on here are 150% sure that you would help any of us out if the need arose.
Speak from the heart, with passion and pride at Tim's funeral, raise a glass of whatever in his memory and remember all the great times you spent together.
Look after yourself cos then you can better look after those close to you.
Take Care.
<header> Dave this one's for you, with thanks for what you've done in your local community, your family & extended family plus your woodworking family from Brisbane, Sydney & Melbourne Wood Shows to the GTG's at Katoomba & Jerilderie....
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True Blue Lyrics - Music Video "True Blue" was written by John Williamson.
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Hey, true blue
Don't say you've gone
Say you've knocked off for a smoko
And you'll be back later on
Hey, true blue
Hey, true blue
Give it to me straight, face to face
Are you really disappearing
Just another dying race
Hey, true blue
True blue, is it me and you?
Is it mum and dad, is it a cockatoo?
Is it standing by your mate?
When he's in a fight or just Vegemite
True blue, I'm asking you
Hey, true blue
Can you bear the load? Will you tie it up with wire
Just to keep the show on the road?
Hey, true blue
Hey, true blue
Now be fair dinkum, is your heart still there?
If they sell us out like sponge cake, do you really care?
Hey, true blue
True blue, is it me and you?
Is it mum and dad, is it a cockatoo?
Is it standin' by your mate?
When she's in a fight or just Vegemite
True blue, I'm asking you
True blue, is it me and you?
Is it mum and dad, is it a cockatoo?
Is it standin' by your mate?
When he's in a fight or just Vegemite
True blue, true blue
Songwriters
JOHN WILLIAMSON
Im touched crowie, thankyou.
Also thanks to those who have rung me and contacted me in other ways. You know who you are.
Dave TTC
Turning Wood Into Art
Dave,
Three bedroom fully furnished house available in Richmond NSW for the cost of a handshake if required.
Dave,
Deepest sympathies to the whole family. I chipped in what I could afford to on the weekend, while you were still on the road. I know there have been a lot of travel expenses and lost wages etc through the life of this thread, so please don't think that you sharing your sister in laws accommodation while your immediate family are in Gosford is false pretences. It seems sensible provided that the sister in law is agreeable.
As for being a financial burden, you could offer some of the money subscribed to her for board, or just leave some to cover her expenses when you are returning, or use some of it to cover the food shopping etc and make sure she is well stocked when you leave. You are also pitching in with some tasks around the house that otherwise wouldn't have happened, that won't be seen as a burden in a couple of years time. So, as far as I am concerned, use the money provided for whatever will help you and the extended family survive this sad occasion.
I hope everything goes smoothly tomorrow, and again our deepest sympathies to the whole family.
Mal
Dave, I don't know you, we have never met but I am really sorry for your loss and inspired by your integrity and loyalty for your family.
I hope tomorrow goes as well as it can and one day, to shake you by the hand mate and tell you how much you have impressed me by standing with your family when they needed you.
I wish restful peace for your brother and strength for you and yours.
Nick
Thankyou. All has been worked out now but truly appreciate the offerQuote:
Originally Posted by rustynail
Thank you Mal for your kind wordsQuote:
Originally Posted by malb
Nick I would love to meet you and everyone one who has been so kind in a time of distress. How awesome it would be to be able to have a BBQ or the like and all meet one dayQuote:
Originally Posted by nicked74
Dave
You and your family are very much in my thoughts today.
Regards
Paul
Thank you Paul and everyone else who as joined me on this journey.Quote:
Originally Posted by Bushmiller
Funeral is at 10. I finally got 'pen to paper' so to speak. Was up tilk gone midnight putting together a eulogy for my brother.
The support I have had here is something I imagine will never be matched again. Thank you all so much
Dave TTC
Turning Wood Into Art
All the best for an extremely tough day today Dave.
Hi Dave,
it will be a tough day for you all but everyone will be looking to you for the strength to get through so, chin up, deep breaths ...and go and make you brother even more proud of you!
we are all thinking of you,
fletty
Dave,
Dont worry too much about the eulogy - just speak from the heart. A funeral is the most understanding and forgiving crowd you can ever speak in front of. Not the easiest speech to make but the least critical crowd.
Talk of happy memories of Tim and all will go well
Good luck
Doug
PS: Stand with Tim's wife at the exit when everyone is coming out of the service. She will need your support right then.
One part is all over now. I did write a eulogy but ended up speaking mostly prom the heart I think. I didnt look at my script much at all.
If you knew my brother one of the final parts was a craker as his 'computer' spoke of Timothy. He would have loved it all I am sure.
RWBuild - Ray, was able to make it for the service. I walked down the street to the parlor and at the front doors about to go in Ray was the first person I saw. It was like seeing family, it was so good. Thx Ray
I know others would have been there if they could and I appreciate that and the messages, PM's and phone calls particularly over the last 24 hours or so. Thank you all.
As part of the funeral ended up catching up with an Aunty who dropped out of my life about 25 years ago. She is now keen to come and visit us in the country and loved my wife and kids.
Over the next few days I may post a copy of my eulogy, it is close to what was said. It may be a little long winded so understand some may skip it. Hopefully I did not put anyone to sleep this morning.
Tomorrow I will try and hang a door for my Sister-in-law and likely we will depart in the afternoon.
Dave TTC
Turning Wood Into Art
Timothy was one of three children to Laurence and Christine Lugg. I was first, 19 months later I had a baby brother Timothy. Almost 4 years later we had a little sister, Sally-Anne.
The 3 of us were dragged up as Christians. I say dragged up because mum and dad did not truly live by it. Being a Christian was in my mind the saving thing in our lives though all three of us failed to stick with it. What it did do was help mold us and I believe our best qualities are rooted in our Christian background.
As kids we grew up in a very disfunctional family particularly for the mid to late 70ies. Mum and dad had a very 'on again, off again' marriage. In those days it was rare not to live with both your parents when you went to school.
Dad was killed in a truck accident when Timothy was 12 and it was 10 days before I turned 14. I became the 'man of the house' as mum put it and I was always the big brother
I was kicked out of at 19. Three months later so was my brother. He came to live with me in shared accomodation. A little later he joined me again when I had moved to a house on my own until he set up in his own unit across town. Not long after this our baby sister was kicked out of home and she came to live with me.
Through our childhood it was always Tim and I as I then called him. We seldom had friends outside of school hours as we moved around to much to develop lasting childhood friends. We changed primary school 16 or 17 times. Timothy was always pulling things apart and seemed they never went back together, especially electronics and gadgets. He could have truly excelled at school but often found the work to menial. I missed the computer revolution at school by 12 months. Timothy got it and loved it but believe it or not he failed computers.
Last year a spoke to a man in Adelaide who was active in the computer industry. He was not friends with Timothy and did not personally know Timothy but he told me 'Anyone who is anyone from the computing industry in Adelaide and particularly programing knows Timothy by reputation. Love him or hate they all recognise he is brilliant'
How did someone like this fail computing at high school. At a parent teacher interview his teacher told my mum "it is frustrating but I had to fail him, I had no choice! Truth be told he knows more about computers than me but he just wont do the work, it is too menial for him."
Timothy was a computer genius, he could have been a rich rich man but often worked for nothing and it was not unheard of to hear of people taking advantage of him and under paying him.
At school when I was reading Tin Tin he was reading books on computer code and computer language. When I started work after year 11 Timothy continued at school. He was such a keen student he would go to the 'library' and study everyday after school, and mum believed it. Like it or not I was his big brother and it was not unheard of for mum to wake me at 2 or 3 in morning to go pick him up from the city because he had missed the last bus. Timothy was really studying at the academy of TimeZone. Did you know that TimeZone offered a masters in the ways of Pac Man and Space Invaders or whatever the latest arcade games were of the time. For those of you who might not have known you may have gathered TimeZone was in fact an ammusement arcade centre. Interesting thing Timezone .... if you hold your hand over the forth letter it reads Tim Zone and that is was.
The apples did not fall far from the tree in some respect. I too had a love of 'Tim Zone' and even went to a 'lock-in' for my bucks night from midnight till 6am. All the games you can play for $10.
In later life he had at least two American companies offer him a postion programing for them in the states not because of a resume but because of his reputation.
As a kid Timothy fancied himself as a kung-fu expert. He was always doing these punches and kicks that stop shy of contact. ... well let me correct that. He tried to be shy of contact. One day as I just stood unimpressed like a statue he did not stop shy of contact. He may not have been able to stop short of contact but man as the blood ran from my nose, he could 'jump a coffee table in a single bound'
We had fights, I mean real fights. It was not unusal for one or the other to draw blood. In my memory he always started and I was the peacemaker. Regardless of how or why and whatever fights there were we were just mates and did almost everything together.
A few years later I married. It would not be unusual for Timothy to come for dinner and stay the night. He would come with his Amiga 500 or Amiga 2000, whatever the latest tech was and we would play games to the wee hours. I moved away from Adelaide and lost touch with Timothy for about 8 years. There was nothing bad that went down between us, just I was gone and he was consumed with programing. When ever I spoke to mum I would ask how he was and she would often say how hard it was to track him down and get a hold of him.
Then in 2002 our mum had termianl cancer. We were all in Adelaide and caught up on lost time. Since then I have was there for him whenever he called and maintained regular contact. From time to time he was called on to help me, it was amazing how he could fix a computer
On Sunday just been I spent most of the day with him. During the day I read to Timothy and recounted various childhood memoreis with him. When Claudia arrived at the hospital in the evening I briefly went back to her house to have some tea and a shower. As I walked down the back streets to my car a smile came to my face. I was thinking about Timothy and as recounted our lives I was satisfied there is not a thing he ever asked of me that I did not do, I was his big brother and I always had his back.
Eric and Jade. Your dad loved you, he loved you a lot. He spent many hours talking to me about your welfare and your future. He wanted what is best for you. He wanted to be here forever but that was out of his control. Even in the last few weeks we spent a lot of time talking about you both and your future. I made a promise to your dad to always look out for you and do what ever I reasonably can for your welfare.
Timothy meeting Claudia was due to his love for his children. He met Claudia at an autism support group he was attending for Jade. Timothy had a big heart. A big big heart. In a short time he came to love Claudia and her family too. Only a couple of weeks before he died We were up visiting again. Timothy spent some time on Sunday playing video games with out kids. The day before I spent some one one time talking about the Eric and Jade. Claudia also came up. He said words to the effect, "Claudia is wonderful." I wish I had wrote it down but I will say it as best I can. .... "If I gave God a list of everything I want in woman Claudia is more than I could have ever imagined, she is just perfect."
Claudia, I have to agree. Children aside you are the best thing that has ever happened in Timothy's adult life. I can not imagine anyone treating him better than you. Thank you.
Timothy was my little brother and yet I looked up to him. I always was jealous when he outgrew me. You would see that in one of my wedding pictures as he towers above me. But even aside from the physical there were things that I looked up to him for.
http://images.tapatalk-cdn.com/15/06...3e0fc3a9eb.jpg
Yes Timothy was my little brother and I loved him.
Dave TTC
Turning Wood Into Art
Thank-you for sharing with us.
kind regards
Joel
Dave
I am not quite sure if that was the essence of your eulogy, but assuming it was or very close there would not have been a dry eye in listening distance.
Regards
Paul