One for my brother

Tonight I sent a link for this thread to my wife. As she read all the various posts she went through a full range of emotions.

When finished one of her comments was "WOW! You have real woodworking family. I wish I had something like that."

I am left speechless by everyones generosity. Bushmiller has volunteered to send my details to all that offered help. If anyone else wants thoae details or is inadvertently overlooked you can PM him.

Today I got these messages from my Sister In Law

"Just spoke with the doctor. She said ..... people should see him ASAP because he will be less and less conscious."

"The head nurse just called me in to sign his resuscitation directive incase anything happens over the weekend.

She says no more than one week."

I will keep close tabs of how he is going but expect likely to be heading that way by Sunday.

Dave TTC
Turning Wood Into Art

To all the readers of this thread:

I have taken the liberty of offering to pass on Dave's banking details to anybody who would like to offer a donation. Just PM me and I will forward his bank details. I don't need to know anything more than that and whatever you are able to contribute I know will be gratefully appreciated.

Dave also mentioned that he has trouble keeping capacity in his mail box and already I have been unable to reply to him (Dave, clear some mail out!)

Many of you know Dave personally and the extent to which he puts himself out to support various Forum sanctioned functions. Many of you also know how he has supported various members of his extended family including his brother's children as well as his own large family. He is not somebody with unlimited funds: In fact quite the contrary, but he is there for them. It is very emotional to see people step up and offer support when he needs it.

I know we don't expect re-payment, but the way I see it is that one day we may be in Dave's unenviable predicament and I hope that somebody will be there for us.

So Forumites: Whatever you can do.

Regards
Paul

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Originally Posted by Bushmiller

I have taken the liberty of offering to pass on Dave's banking details to anybody who would like to offer a donation. Just PM me and I will forward his bank details. I don't need to know anything more than that and whatever you are able to contribute I know will be gratefully appreciated.

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Thanks Paul,

I started the ball rolling with the offer of a donation. When I did that I was hoping that others may follow suit. Having been in a similar position to Dave more than once in my life I have always appreciated any support I have been offered, and I know as well as anyone how humbling it can be when you get this kind of unsolicited support.

I know that not every forumite is in a position to help out but I am overjoyed to see as many as there are who put up their hand to follow my lead here.

Dave, at this moment you need to concentrate on your own immediate family and your brother's family. You have been great in taking on your brother's kids as if they were your own. Right now you are really only on the first mile of a long hard road. If I can take some of the bumps out of that road for you we are both richer for it.

Cheers

Doug

Hi Paul,
Please send me the bank details too. I haven't commented on this thread previously, I think I'm better at entering account numbers and BSB numbers than putting the right words together. I can appreciate the difficult times Dave and his family are going through, and a suitable contribution from me and others will help ease some of the pain.
I first met Dave at the WWWS last year, and enjoyed a fabulous weekend at his Jerilderee home with quite a few other forumites earlier this year. A nicer bloke and a nicer extended family you would have to travel many miles to meet.

Alan...

Thank you to all of you who have stepped up to assist Dave. Some have not posted here, but have still donated.

Congratulations to all of you. I will keep checking my inbox up till late morning, but will be out through the afternoon until this evening.

(Edit) I should add that more contributions will still be very helpful as I suspect accommodation near the hospital will not be cheap and I doubt there are enough funds to cover a stay of more than a day or two at the most.

Regards
Paul

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I should add that more contributions will still be very helpful as I suspect accommodation near the hospital will not be cheap and I doubt there are enough funds to cover a stay of more than a day or two at the most.

Regards
Paul

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I can fix that. Send me Dave's banking details when you get back online.

Latest news from my sister-in-law

"Timothy can't speak anymore and his breathing is becoming more erratic now."

Looks like I've missed tha chance to converse but I may stilk make it to talk to him. Organizing to go now

Thanks all for your support in every way

Dave TTC
Turning Wood Into Art

It seems sometimes when you think you are ready for a trip you just aint. Finally on the road and Raechell is driving the first leg. Sammy had an emergency toilet issue and as we were stopping she said she can wait 20 minutes. We'll see if we can stretch it Kerang. Nice clean toilets there.

We will do about 500km tonight and stop. It must be about 650km the second leg.

Just sent my boss a text. Ive only recently started the new job and have no entitlements to use up. This is the secind time he has let me take leave without pay in less than a month. Really dont want to loose this job as I like it.

Damn she cant wait 20 minutes, maybe a 5yr old just hasn't quite got the time concept lol

Dave TTC
Turning Wood Into Art

Dave the important thing is being there. Your presence at this time is worth more than any words.
While your journey is important, arrive safely.

Our thoughts are with you and your family.

Back online and two more requests for banking details awaiting. All done.

Thanks men!

Regards
Paul

Got the word he is no longer responsive and has the shakes. Have decided to cancel overnight atop and just push through.

Worst of roo country will be over in about 200 kms then Raechell will do some driving again

Feel I have to get there



Dave

The Turning Cowboy

Be safe on the highway please, Dave....

Just mafe wagga

Ready to tag our but so is Raechell and she hasn't even started again.

Looks like we'll be finding a truck stop around Gundagai

Dave TTC
Turning Wood Into Art

Dave I have been following this thread, but have avoided commenting as I am not great with words, My thoughts are with you, be safe

regards Joel

60 km south of Yass and we have pulled over to snooze

Dave TTC
Turning Wood Into Art

Back on the road again

Dave TTC
Turning Wood Into Art

Dave,
I don't know how I've missed all of this! I'm at Camden which isn't close enough to the Hospital but good for a stop, a shower, or a bed on the way in or out of Sydney. Full contact details on PM

fletty

I made it. Had to stop for another sleep while the kids had breakfast (round 2) at hungry jacks.

He is still hanging in there. Felt I had to rush as was afraid I might be to late.

He can hear me and was able to turn my way when I asked him too thiugh he does not seem to focus on anything.

I will spend some ti.e talki g to him, reminiscing on the past and trying to reasuure him.

Thanks all for your support through this period.

Dave TTC
Turning Wood Into Art

I will keep the Forum page open today and revisit it frequently so I can pass on details if required.

Overnight some more people contacted me for Dave's details. I know he is extremely grateful for all the support from you blokes and particularly because it has come from Forum members. It has been terrific to see, very emotional for everyone and great to see that a bunch of obsessive woodworkers can see beyond their hobby to a greater need.

Just fantastic!

I expect Dave is either at the hospital now or very close. I also expect that he will update again when he can, because that is what he does, but this is going to be a very difficult time for him and family. I have no doubt that there will be a very traumatic aftermath period and these contributions (I count about 15 to date) are going to help enormously.

Hell; He is going to need them!

Well done all of you, including those who offer moral support (not everybody is in a position to offer financial support.)

Regards
Paul

Dave, I'm glad you "reported in". I was worried about you driving all those k's at night with nocturnal animals potential "targets".
Hang in there mate, I'd reckon today may get pretty rough.

Dave ,
I don't know you from a bar of soap.
But I've been checking in on your story constantly .
And my heart goes out to you and your family.
Your an amazing human being .
Matt.

Well I'm back at the hospital again. I started reading this thread to him earlier and will read some more.

The nurses are fantastic. It must be a hard job surrounded by death. Timothy has a good chance of passing tonight or tomorrow. It does not seem he will go much more.

I did not get a picture together last time I was here so have taken a few now but they may be distressing to others.

If you will indulge me over the next few days leading up to his funeral I will share some childhood memmories and some more recent pics of him in good health

Thanks for further posts and support

Dave TTC
Turning Wood Into Art

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The nurses are fantastic. It must be a hard job surrounded by death.
Dave TTC
Turning Wood Into Art

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My wife is a nurse who spent 20 years in palliative care until her retirement last year. They regard it as a privilege to help and keep the person comfortable on their final journey. They also learn to leave their work at work and not bring it home.

Hey Dave, It'd be a privilege and honour to have you share some of your memories with Tim, thank you....Cheers, Peter

Just caught up with my baby 1/2 sister Katerina. I raised her from the age 11 (after our mother died of cancer) till she left home at 18. I've spoken from a distance and on social media but this is only the second time I have seen her in the last 5 years.

She is married and going on 25. She has matured nicely and studying to do palliative care.

She had it rough as youth with epilepsy, and numerous other disorders but has come a long way

Dave TTC
Turning Wood Into Art

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Originally Posted by Simplicity

Dave ,
I don't know you from a bar of soap.
But I've been checking in on your story constantly .
And my heart goes out to you and your family.
Your an amazing human being .
Matt.

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Hi Matt,

When we were both at the Forum stand last October, you might have seen Dave on Big Stan's stand during the woodchopping explanation/demonstration.

Craig

Ok
Thanks Craig

He's gone

Dave TTC
Turning Wood Into Art

So sad

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He's gone

Dave TTC
Turning Wood Into Art

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Dave
I am pleased that you were able to say your goodbyes.
Mourn your loss but treasure your memories.
Take care.

Dave,
I'm so glad you got there in time. He would have known you were near. Thinking now of you and the family.
fletty

When my mother was passing, she was in a bad way and her brother was flying up form Melbourne to see her before she left.

Two hours after he arrived and sat with her she finally let go.

People are just amazing.

Godspeed Timothy...

But not forgotten. May he R.I.P

Thanks Dave. I hope that this could be the beginning of a chapter in your life where everything works out. I think you have had more than your share of "stuff". You are a good man Dave. All the best to you and the family
Make sure you give Tim's kids a big hug

Dave
My thoughts to Timothy's wife your self and the family.
A sad but also touching time
Matt

Talk about the good times, the fun, the growing up and mischief you got into.....
The memories will live on as does the love you had for each other.....
Be strong Dave, cry a lot giving and receiving all the hugs you can hold....

Dave, I know it was expected but it still comes as a shock when it happens.

Be strong for those who need you but also remember you have to look after yourself so that you are able to look after those you love.

I know you will take the focus off yourself and help the others, but take some time each day just for you to do your own grieving and recharge your battereis so you are ready to help the others.I had to do this when my wife passed away and it works.

Cheers

Doug

So sorrry to hear your inevitable news dave. You may feel as though you had time to "prepare" for this but my experience is that when the time comes it feels like it all goes out the window.

Now you will start the inevitable roller coaster ride of grief. Hang in there and lean on your family as they have leant on you. Find comfort in the fact your brother has the best brother (and friend) in the world. You did good!

Simon

Very sad Dave thoughts with you and the family.

Ross

My condolences to Dave and the family.

This chapter of your lives is almost closed, there are still some hard times to come but I feel confident that you all will do what has to be done while dealing with it in your own special way.

Unfortunately, there will be some hard times to come, especially the "year of firsts" by that I mean the first birthday, Father's Day, Christmas etc. These times can be rough but hang onto the great memories and focus on the good times.