With mine, I've run the bearers through at joist level all the way through and the joists all butt into the back of it. Mine is all steel but the same principle applies. You don't see the ends of any joists and you don't see any end grain on the decking (except in two places where it doesn't matter). All you see is the face of the bearer and the long grain edge of the decking.
I have a full board that runs the full length of the deck on the outside of the post, so all my posts are 'set back' from the edge of the deck by 90mm. I reckon it finished it off nicely with the balustrade. The bearers are 50mm, so there is an over hang of 40mm. I prefer that look to the blunt look.