Thanks again for the replies from everyone.
My understanding is that the sealer is used to raise the grain of the timber, and to then sand those fibres down to a flat surface, but unless it is a very tight grained timber the sealer will do very little filling. Correct?
When sanding the sealer, should you really go back to bare timber? Wouldn't this be exposing more loose fibres that will lift with the next coat?
I have borrowed a French Polishing book from the local library, and am waiting for another by Bob Flexner to arrive. I'm sure the questions will continue.