The hardest thing I've ever had to do

Thank you everyone for your kind thoughts and wishes. I went and saw mum again last night and I'll go again this morning before I go to work this arvo. Just to explain the situation a bit, mum is 94 and was sent to Frankston emergency last week with a badly infected foot. Amputation was discussed but the consesus was that she would not survive the surgery. She is now receiving palliative care and pain management (morphine every 4 hours) and she is now refusing food and water. She made it very clear to me a few years ago that she did not want to be put on life support .............
I just received a phone call that mum has passed away...............gotta go

My thoughts are with you

Sorry to hear the bad news GJ.

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Originally Posted by Grumpy John

She made it very clear to me a few years ago that she did not want to be put on life support .............
I just received a phone call that mum has passed away...............gotta go

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My thoughts are with you John! All the best!

My sincere condolences to you John and your family. :C

I'm so sorry for your loss John. My deepest sympathy to you and your family.

Ah mate, sorry to hear that.

FWIW your Mum had courage and decided she'd had enough. Right choice for her; still hard for you.

All the best John.
David

Mourn your loss but treasure your memories.
Best wishes to you and your family

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Originally Posted by rsser

Ah mate, sorry to hear that.

FWIW your Mum had courage and decided she'd had enough. Right choice for her; still hard for you.

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Not really hard for me at all Ern, the state she was in was nothing like the woman I knew as I was growing up and it troubled me greatly to see her mind and body disintegrate the way it did the over the last few years.

John

I know precisely how you feel.
I lost my mum 25 years ago. Remember to grieve.
Crying is also allowed.

Sorry to hear of your loss mate. May she rest in peace.

John our thoughts are with you and your family.

As you have indicated you have fond memories to keep with you in this time of loss

Regards Jim & Irene

No GJ, of course it's best that they're out of their misery and esp. if they make that choice themselves.

Yes though; it's still hard when they're finally gone.

Prob the best thing I did with my Dad was sit with him while he died of pneumonia. He was close to vegetable status and this was a family decision not to pump him full of antibiotics. It took him 36 hours to die though and I no longer think of as benign that simple phrase 'withdrawal of medical care'.

Again, thank you all for you kind thoughts. The idea that total strangers take the time to express their sympathies restores some faith in the human race :2tsup:.