SWMBO has departed this mortal coil

Yesterday around lunchtime SWMNLBO suffered an aneurism followed by a heart attack and she passed away at 7:30 pm last night.
There was no sign she had been unwell , we had a coffee and a general chat on the front veranda and she continued to do some craft while I went inside to get myself some lunch. Around midday she came in to get lunch and went to the bathroom where she collapsed.

I was a blithering mess when it happened but the neighbours were fantastic. One called an Ambo and 2 started CPR (they had been on a course just 2 days before). 3 Ambos arrived within 15 minutes and they worked on her for about 30 minute before transferring her to hospital where they put her on a respirator and a scan showed the aneurism. My Dad died of the same thing 23 years ago so I knew then the general way this would eventually go.
The doctors were amazing and they even eventually raised a faint heartbeat but she was bleeding so badly her heart could not sustain any usable blood pressure and she died 7 hours late.

I have a son and daughter law and two small grandies but also a large extended family (9 siblings, 7 here in Perth) and fantastic neighbours who are all great support, but I have never felt so alone. My 2 dogs helped a bit last night when it got really bad. I've been walking aimlessly through the house this morning and her many finished and unfinished arts and crafts are everywhere. She was also a bit of a hoarder so there' all this (in my mind) useless crap around that part of me wants to get rid of immediately but another part says - she's bare left. . . . . .

She was only 67 and had suffered badly from severe vertigo for the last ~3 years which added to some mental illness issues and she became quite limited in what she was able to do eg could not drive. Over the last 6 months she had got some help with the mental illness and it seemed to be working cause she had just started driving short distances. We even started making some tentative plans but then . . . . .this.

One of the worst things I'm feeling is the regrets of what I never quite got around to telling her. Tell your loved ones those things now.

My condolences.
Bare up
Regards

My condolences Bob.

Sorry to hear this Bob, I give you my condolences.
I am glad that you have family close by for support.

My deepest sympathy Bob.
This is a time to keep friends and family close. The journey can be hard, but they will help
So sorry for your loss
Tom

Sorry to hear that news, Bob.

Mourn your loss but treasure your memories.

Take care.

Bob,

My deepest condolences. Whilst no one can say anything that will take your pain or loss away, sharing does still help.

So sorry to hear this, Bob. It must be very difficult to lose such a close partner.

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So sorry to hear this, Bob. It must be very difficult to lose such a close partner.

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Yes I'm feeling it very hard. Married for 45 years. Amanda was basically a very shy person but still followed me to all my academic postings overseas with out any complaints and kept house while I worked endless ours in labs. In retirement it was my turn to give back time to her interests and passions.

Creative, artistic, understated and persistent. Especially patient with our autistic grandson and on the way to showing our 3 year old grand daughter how to sew. I could share any successes, frustrations and failures with her, whether it was fixing a chainsaw, dealing with difficult staff at work, or developing a computer algorithm. She had a passion for wool craft, sewing and quilting, children and adult literature, all animals, especially horses, birds and dogs, cooking, and lately developing our small front garden. I could go on but that shows just some of the many aspects of her life. I consider myself very lucky to have shared the time we had together.

I remember when I first met her. we were both school teachers in a small country town. She had a new puppy and was building a low picket fence to keep it inside an outdoor laundry while she was at work. She had a cute dog and looked pretty handy with a hammer and saw, what could go wrong . . . . .

My sincere condolences Bob and your family, it is a shock when it happens, family, friends and your community here are all here whenever your need to talk
Cherish the memories of what you did together

Bob,

There are no words.

Very sorry for your loss.

Zac.

Sorry to here that Bob my thoughts are with you and your family.

Hi Bob,

My thoughts mirror the others on this forum.
You have my deepest condolences.

Regards,

Adam

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Bob,

You have my deepest condolences. Perhaps its more comforting to know that Amanda passed relatively quickly. Keep busy and call upon you family and friends when needed.

Kind regards
Geoff

My Condolences Bob

Treasure your memories with her, as it sounds like you had a great partner.

Condolences Bob. Always remember the good times you had together.

Sorry to hear of your loss Bob. My thoughts are with you at this sad time.

My condolences for this tragic loss Bob. Much sympathy for you at this time, I can't even begin to imagine.

So sorry to hear of your loss. Condolences to you and your family.

Good afternoon Bob,

It was always a delight to read your posts which evidenced an enjoyable marriage of many years. I am so sorry for your loss; I can only imagine the sense of emptiness which such a departure must leave. Know however that you have many friends on these forums who will support you however we can.

Kind regards,
Lance

Bob, I am not surprised your neighbours and family rallied around you at this time of great loss. We all have witnessed your willingness to offer help to anyone with a question and now its our turn to pay back. Most of us may be hours away but the computer puts us as close as your desk. Sing out when you need someone to help

Bob, my deepest condolences as well. I'd like to echo the other posters and offer any help or support we could possibly give.

Sorry for your loss.

Sorry to hear of your loss Bob. My condolence to you and your family.

Very sorry to hear of your loss Bob, sincere condolences to you and yours.

It is so often times like this that we can be at a loss to know what to say and do that will offer some comfort to the bereaved. My deepest sympathy on the loss of your beloved partner in life, cherish the memories you have built together and see her through your children and grandchildren and the things they say and do which will be constant reminders of her time and influence.

Bob,
Words fail us, but our most considerate condolences, to your self an family.
So so sorry for your loss.

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Very sorry to hear Bob, and after 45yrs together I'm sure it'll be hard for a while.

Talk, Laugh, Cry and remember all the good time along with the funny times;

take as much time as you need to deal with the loss;

surrounding yourself with family and friends, spend some time on your own remembering...

Let others help as they are able as they will also be feeling the loss too....

Finally Bob, spend sometime in the shed being creative...

Bob,
Sorry for your loss. Words are hard, but remember all the good times you had together, they are there forever.

Nifty.

Oh Bob

Such a shock for you and your family.

I’ll add you to the list of guys I have to think about because of their losses.

Happy to talk if you want

Devastating news Bob. My sincere condolences to you and your family.

Alan...

Bob, Sorry and shocked at your sudden loss. At least she passed quickly with little discomfort.
While the forum is vast it is at times like this we all feel close and feel your sadness.

May her memory be a blessing.

Words fail us in times like this
I'm very sorry for your loss, My sincere condolences to you and your family.

Sorry to hear of such sad and sudden news for you and your family Bob.

Rob.

No words but my thoughts and prayer for you and your family.

I am so deeply sorry to read this, my friend. My thoughts are with you.

Warmest wishes

Derek

Very sorry to hear this sad news. At times like this, I find the words of another splendid old bugger to be of some comfort,

“No one is finally dead until the ripples they cause in the world die away, until the clock wound up winds down, until the wine she made has finished its ferment, until the crop they planted is harvested. The span of someone’s life is only the core of their actual existence.” - Terry Pratchett

Treasure the memories.

It’s sad to be reading this Bob. Take care of yourself.

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Good Morning Bob
I just read your post, my sincerest and deepest apologies.
Hope you are ok and have support from family and friends

Sincerely
Willy
Jarrahland