How do Others Feel?

Many times over the years and twice recently, I have along with others responded to threads started particularly by newbies where the thread starter is not heard of again. This disappoints me immensely (not the words I was thinking but let's keep it clean).

Are these people just takers "I'm right Jack"?

Whenever I start a thread I feel it is my responsiblity to reguarly check that thread and respond to those who are kind enough to give their time and valuable or witty responses.

Is it just me that gets upset about this type of behavior?

I see it as no different to helping a driver by pushing their car and they just drive off without a wave or a thanks.

Perhaps I am just getting grumpy in my old age.:?

I'm new and my experience is that I've started a thread and had one response but it has gone no further. Without a response it is like talking to no one so the impetus is halted.
However, I have been checking regularly for responses. If I continue to contribute to this particular thread for the next month or so and still no response then I will close it off as it is plain no one is interested.
Rgds

tis not just you WB. i notice it alot ( even if i havent posted in the thread), and i wonder why even a simple "thanx for the info guys" isnt posted:?

Sorry to hear of your experience Dry Water. It seems that you are into boats a subject where I have little experience in so I can't really help you.

Ask something about furniture or hand tools and I will respond and you can thank me (even if you couldn't care less and even if my response doesn't make sense at least we will both be happy:2tsup:)

There was an example a few years ago when I went out to my shed at almost midnight, arranged tools and wood to photograph in order to demonstrate my explanation - no response from the person who posted the question.:((

Now there's a thing......a lovely response. Quick and to the point. That's all a fella ever needs.
Yeah pity your not into boats but many thanks for the support.
Cheers

When I posted my thread about my puny little handles I was kinda conscious that everyone in the world could read it and that if someone else wanted to know the answer to there should be some resolution to it. Thats why I set out my conclusions at the end about what I had discovered from everyones contributions and my further experiments. Other wise there really is no "repository of knowledge" so to speak. Every time someone wants to know something they have to ask all over again. May be "everyone" is the repository of knowledge.

Hmmmmm! My thoughts are a bit fuzzy but perhaps you get my gist?

G'day Woodborer and Dry Water and others,
I totally agree........all my books are up in the shed......get a question..........go to the shed.........find the reference.........scan a page.......shrink to appropriate size..........POST the answer.........bugger all reply.
Manners Manners Manners.
Doesn't happen all the time, but jeez it cheeses me when it does,
Grumpy.
Regards,
Noel

Sorry didn't see you there Tea Lady

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Originally Posted by Wood Borer

Whenever I start a thread I feel it is my responsiblity to reguarly check that thread and respond to those who are kind enough to give their time and valuable or witty responses.

Perhaps I am just getting grumpy in my old age.:?

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G'day Rob,

:no: To me it's just a common decency, it's no different from having a conversation with someone - they say something so you reply back.

I'm not old, but I do get grumpy. :D

Try not to let anothers ignorance ruin an otherwise perfik day ..:U

do unto others what you would have done to you.....:roll:

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Originally Posted by manoftalent

Try not to let anothers ignorance ruin an otherwise perfik day ..:U

do unto others what you would have done to you.....:roll:

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Only do it first!!......joking!!

I think its more a case of coming across the site when the stuffs hit the fan, they are all excited/angry/inquisitive and ask away but in the meantime the answer comes to them somehow and they forget all about posting here.

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Originally Posted by dazzler

I think its more a case of coming across the site when the stuffs hit the fan, they are all excited/angry/inquisitive and ask away but in the meantime the answer comes to them somehow and they forget all about posting here.

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so maybe 'subscribing to a posted thread with instant email notification' needs to be a default setting for new people so this doesnt happen as often:?

Good idea Stirlo, that one is a possible solution.

I agree with Rob on this one, there are a few times where a response is given and no thanks is offered. Just plain old good manners to say thanks.

I agree with the sentiment expressed here. I know I felt uneasy and awkward when first posting here and you are never quite sure how you will be viewed through what you have written, but it is common decency and good manners to take time to respond to those who have tried to assist.

Don't you hate it though when you respond to a thread that many have been contributing to and as a conversation killer the thread stops? ...no I don't suppose it happens to anyone else.

BTW welcome to the forum Dry Water.

prozac

A variation of this question has been posted before, but I can't find the link. Pretty much the same sentiments as currently expressed. Yeah, I get grumpy about it occasionally, but it passes away soon enough. Stirlo's idea sounds grrrrrreat. Maybe revert to standard default without subscription after, say, 5 posts? This feature might not yet be available in VBulletin, but could be valuable on most other BB's too. I think there's a VBulletin forum for users (admins etc.) someplace.

Joe