If its a stained finish, you might have to take care with the cabinet scraper or sanding as you don't really want to cut through to unstained timber - some of the 'stain' finishes that I've seen on commercial furniture are more like a thin coat of paint. Especially if the finish has already gone a bit funny.
I'm an old fuddy-duddy when it comes to finishes; oil, shellac and wax are my favorites because they are not a right pain in the a*se to remove when they get damaged - you just slap more on - so if it's a table thats in for a beating, they would be my suggestions. (The owner of this forum sells a hard shellac finish that may appeal to you)
If the table starts to look too bad, its the work of five minutes to put on some fresh wax - and your kitchen will smell of beeswax, eucalyptus or citrus rather than sillicone and methylbenzene phenylmethane toluol and 1,3-dimethylbenzene.
If you want to go with a high build, semi gloss finish that is absolute minimum maintennance and will take reasonable knocks without damage and won't have cracking or denting problems, rather than muck around with nitro or polyurethane or whatever, my trick is to put on a thin layer of contact adhesive (the gooey, smelly, tan coloured stuff) onto the surface and then apply a sheet of woodgrain laminex in the desired colour. My mum has a buffet that was done that way, and it still looks just like it did when it was new (which is about 40 years ago now). :D
Or there's the Minwax Rub-On polyurethane (avalable in the paint section in Bunnies) which has had good write-ups both on this forum and in publications like Fine Woodworking. This sounds like it is less of a fiddle to use than spraying on a finish.